Having to deal
with people that has no manners are such a pain in the neck. If only there is a
way to remove all the rude people in this world, imagine how peaceful and happy
our lives would be - but we all know, that is unfortunately, impossible.
According to an
article by Daily Mail Reporter, a new study shows that when it comes to rude
people, silence really is golden. Researchers from Baruch College at City
University of New York claims that people who completely ignore those who are
rude and offensive were found more mentally healthy than those who engage with
them.
An article by lifehack.org exhibits different smart approaches on how to deal with rude people - be objective and analyse the rudeness. When somebody was rude to you - what did they do or say? Was there any sense in it? If you view the situation objectively, you’ll realize that most rudeness is senseless, so you can cheerfully ignore it. On the rare occasions when there’s logic behind the rude behaviour, staying objective lets you address the root of the problem instead of the rudeness concealing it.
They also recommend to not join the drama club. Why? Do you ever feel like yelling at the rude people around you? Don’t. Joining in the drama will only escalate the situation. Whether you are dealing with a drama queen who is doing it on purpose, or an inconsiderate oaf whose rudeness is unintentional, keep your dignity intact by not letting rude behaviour provoke you into a tantrum of your own.
Next, let it drop and walk away. Rudeness is hurtful, but removing yourself from the situation is the fastest and surest way to avoid more rude behaviour from the same person. Walk away, even if they’re still talking to you! If they are a stranger, you will never have to deal with them again. If they are a friend or colleague, they will soon learn that being rude to you gets them exactly nowhere and this maybe will prompt them to be nicer next time.
A conclusion on this matter was made by an article published by psychologytoday.com. It was written that when someone’s rudeness crosses the line and becomes bullying or harassment, you must be a proactive "whistleblower" and alert others to the details of your hostile environment. Sometimes being polite is not an appropriate response to disrespectful treatment.
When dealing with rude people, always stay even-keel and use common sense. Trust your gut instincts and intellect when deciding whether to let rudeness roll of your back in an attempt to create an upward spiral of more empathy and kindness by "not fighting back.” In some instances, we all need to put our foot down and make it clear, in the spirit of 'ferocious equanimity,' that we won’t tolerate rude or insulting behaviour anymore.
That being said, 99% of the time, it’s more effective to disarm rude people with politeness. Over the years, study has found that deflecting rudeness with genuine kindness is the best defence.
An article by lifehack.org exhibits different smart approaches on how to deal with rude people - be objective and analyse the rudeness. When somebody was rude to you - what did they do or say? Was there any sense in it? If you view the situation objectively, you’ll realize that most rudeness is senseless, so you can cheerfully ignore it. On the rare occasions when there’s logic behind the rude behaviour, staying objective lets you address the root of the problem instead of the rudeness concealing it.
They also recommend to not join the drama club. Why? Do you ever feel like yelling at the rude people around you? Don’t. Joining in the drama will only escalate the situation. Whether you are dealing with a drama queen who is doing it on purpose, or an inconsiderate oaf whose rudeness is unintentional, keep your dignity intact by not letting rude behaviour provoke you into a tantrum of your own.
Next, let it drop and walk away. Rudeness is hurtful, but removing yourself from the situation is the fastest and surest way to avoid more rude behaviour from the same person. Walk away, even if they’re still talking to you! If they are a stranger, you will never have to deal with them again. If they are a friend or colleague, they will soon learn that being rude to you gets them exactly nowhere and this maybe will prompt them to be nicer next time.
A conclusion on this matter was made by an article published by psychologytoday.com. It was written that when someone’s rudeness crosses the line and becomes bullying or harassment, you must be a proactive "whistleblower" and alert others to the details of your hostile environment. Sometimes being polite is not an appropriate response to disrespectful treatment.
When dealing with rude people, always stay even-keel and use common sense. Trust your gut instincts and intellect when deciding whether to let rudeness roll of your back in an attempt to create an upward spiral of more empathy and kindness by "not fighting back.” In some instances, we all need to put our foot down and make it clear, in the spirit of 'ferocious equanimity,' that we won’t tolerate rude or insulting behaviour anymore.
That being said, 99% of the time, it’s more effective to disarm rude people with politeness. Over the years, study has found that deflecting rudeness with genuine kindness is the best defence.
Nice! Maybe I can apply this to my daily life. Thanks for the tip!
ReplyDeleteNo problem. Thanks for reading 😙
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